Becoming
Safe
Healing the complex wounds of Betrayal Trauma with Songs, the Stories behind them, and Tools that Transform your Pain into Peace and Joy
You are not alone
and
You are not crazy
Hello Friend! I am Stacey Anne Fitzgerald...and I'm here to help you understand WHY you feel the way you feel...and HOW you can feel better.
There is no judgement here because...
I. AM. JUST. LIKE. YOU.
I experienced BETRAYAL in the key relationships of my life both as a child and an adult.
I've walked this road to Becoming Safe, so I know YOU can feel SAFE too!
You see, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!
In fact, YOU ARE FUNCTIONING EXACTLY ACCORDING TO DESIGN!
And this DESIGN is within your Nervous System, made to alert you and move you
FROM stress, fear, anger, hurt, and pain,
TO calm, safe, secure, free, and capable.
Yet maybe you FEEL like your Nervous System had gone haywire!!
You are not broken!
You are functioning exactly the way you were designed!
I hear you!: "So...WHY do I FEEL so broken!?!"
I felt the same way!
In the winter of 2021 I had what some might call a "breakdown". Click on the video below to hear what happened to me and how that "breakdown" became the beginning of my beautiful "BREAK-THROUGH" in restoring my true self - spirit, soul and body.
SO THAT...you can show up for yourself and others and offer the unique GIFT of YOU to this world from a place of WHOLENESS and JOY!
YOU have SO much to give!
Don't stay STUCK another day!
SO, what does "SAFE" feel like??
Scan the list of words and feelings below to see if YOU feel "SAFE" or "unSAFE":
Have you ever felt unSAFE: insecure, fearful, captive, stuck, unworthy, lost and unsure? Panic attacks, sky-high heart rate, uncontrollable thoughts, shameful emotional outburts, hyper-vigilant, anxious, depressed, loss of confidence, lack of trust for your own intuition, abused, used, taken advantage of, less than, never enough or too much?! What about physical symptoms? IBS, body aches, migraines, insomnia, autoimmune disorders, overweight, addictions, degenerative disdease?
Do you long to feel SAFE: secure and free, at the same time? At home in your body - healthy, vibrant, energetic, calm and alert, capable and strong? At peace in your soul - a quiet mind, clear thoughts, a confident will, able to make sound choices, strong yet enjoyable emotions, awake and easy feelings? Complete & whole in your spirit - your true self and identity in the image of your Creator?
Can you imagine... a life where you no longer feel controlled and taken captive by your emotions and circumstances? A life where fear no longer rules your mind, hijacks your emotions, and dictates your next move?A life where you are free to love and be loved? Where you are free to say Yes and to say No and still feel valuable and cherished?
Welcome to my story-telling musical experience of healing symptoms of Complex PTSD associated with multiple life-altering traumatic events. Can you see YOUR STUFF in MY STORIES?
* EARLY CHILHOOD PATTERNS - my parents' divorce when I was 4 years old
* TRAUMATIC EVENTS - a near death horse accident at the age of 20
* UNHEALHTY COPING MECHANISMS AND HABITS - my adolescent and adult battle with disordered eating
* HOPES LOST AND DREAMS SHATTERED - marriage at 18 and divorce 20 years later
* BETRAYAL AND RELATIONAL TURMOIL - the ongoing wounds and resultant scars in my body and on my soul from sexual infidelity in my marriage, and the betrayal trauma that resurfaced decades later
Your pain CAN take you somewhere beautiful...I promise you!
JUST KNOW THIS:
You are never abandoned, you are never broken, and you are always loved.
Becoming Safe is a one-step-at-a-time walk in the Direction of Love.
Love between You and Your Creator.
Love for yourself and others.
I am on this path of Becoming Safe....
And I'd like to invite you to join me...
...hand in hand, through the ups and downs and twists and turns of life!
What YOU get when you join Becoming Safe:
* 10+ hours of video footage!
stories behing the songs, live performances, transformational tools & more
* 12 MP3s with a growing library! - my original songs, listen & download
* Lyric & Chord Chart pdf downloads for every song!
PLUS journaling questions so you can dig deeper into your own stories and healing
AND lists of the resources I personally dug into for my own healing
In Becoming Safe, you will FEEL safe as you listen to my SONGS and STORIES as hearing them will give you the COURAGE to find your healing within your own stories.
You may feel VALIDATED and UNDERSTOOD for the first time!
I will show you HOW I learned to regulate my Nervous System with TRANSFORMATIONAL TOOLS that are easy to use right now, right where you are.
I will share some FOUNDATIONAL KEY CONCEPTS that bring understanding to WHY you feel WHAT you feel, and give you the CONFIDENCE that you too can navigate through past wounds and traumas as well as the present and future ups and downs of life
SO THAT you can be...
WHOLE
SAFE
SECURE
and FREE!
Becoming Safe has been my experience!
Why not join me, and together we can make it yours!
Lifetime access...
here for you whenever you need
TO ALL THE SONGS, STORIES, AND TOOLS
ongoing content releases
...TO HEAL YOUR SPIRIT, SOUL, AND BODY
with Hebraic insights
Sign up to get immediate and ongoing lifetime access to all the content below...
Below is what you will have immediate access to when you sign up today:
TRANSFORMATIONAL TOOLS:
Regulation 101 -4 exercises for you to bring immediate calm to your nervous system and restore peace to your body, mind and emotions so that you can function and not freak out!
My 3 Brains - understand WHY you feel the way you feel and react the way you do so that you can recognize what's happening to you in the moment of stress and access your logic & reason!
The Timeline Tool - so that you can turn your "symptoms" and painful life-stories into stepping-stones for mending the wounds in your soul!
The 10-Point Scale - so that you find your "calm/alert" during stress, eliminate overwhelm, and actually learn, thrive, and grow instead of sabotaging yourself with old hurtful patterns!
MY 4 BIG STORIES:
Near-Death Horse Accident - how I lived through an hour alone, crushed and bleeding, dragging myself down a dirt road.
Victorious Battle with Disordered Eating - how this unhealthy coping mechanism started, what it was really about, and how I finally got free!
Marriage at 18, Betrayal, and Divorce - how trying to do everything "right" finally caught up with me, opened my eyes to why I was in a broken relationship, and gave me the courage to grow, heal, and leave, finding mySelf in the midst of the rubble.
My Parents' Divorce when I was 4 Yrs Old - how this childhood upheaval set the stage for my anxious/avoidant relationship style, "co-dependant" tendencies, and ultimately my need to release, re-parent myself, and return to the true ME.
THE SONGS:
Story Behind the Song Video - so you can go behind the scene and discover the situation, emotion, or question that inspired the creation of the song!
Live Version Video - so you can hear the song in it's raw original form as if you are sitting with me in my studio!
Transformational Tool video - so you can keep feeling safe and safer with a new tool for your soul healing tool-box connected to each song!
Downloads of MP3, Lyrics, and Chord Chart - so you can listen, read, journal and even play along!
WE ALL CHOOSE
UNDERNEATH
'ROUND AGAIN
SHE DOESN'T KNOW I'M PRETTY (Joy's Song)
I GAVE YOU THE MOON
ALREADY GLORIOUS
10,000 HOURS
... and MORE!
ONGOING SUPPORT:
Books, Websites, Podcasts, YouTube Channels, and Methods that have helped me the most!
Support for your Body - regulating your physical responses... bringing peace, calm, and a felt sense of safety.
Support for your Soul - restoring your mind, will, & emotions... establishing lifegiving thoughts, choices, and feelings.
Support for your Spirit - reconnecting with Your Creator... building trust in the Great I Am and fidning who YOU really are!
*Connection BONUS #1* FOR LADIES ONLY:
Exclusive access to one-on-one connection with Stacey via phone call or Marco Polo app with "pay what you can" or "share what you have" options.
(because I understand that not all of us have access to traditional counseling!)
*Connection BONUS #2* FOR LADIES ONLY:
Receive an invite to a private Facebook Group where you can connect via live videos with Stacey, ask questions, meet fellow members, get updates, and find support in a safe space!
(not on FB? no worries! more ways to connect live coming soon!)
Testimonies:
“It’s so helpful listening to your stories. I feel like coming from someone who’s gone through what you have and sharing resources and how you got through it gives me hope that someday I could get there! Coming from you, and your background, and how you got to where you are now is super helpful, and I feel like other people will feel the same way. And then your songs! You are gifted with your music! I really loved the song Underneath, and the one about your horse [She Doesn’t Know I’m Pretty/Joy’s Song]. Those two I really relate to, and they spoke to me because the external has always really been a thing for me. When I’m going through insecurities, when I’m focusing so much on the external, those songs were really good and helped me so much! I love that you have the lyrics too, and the chords that you can download! I really like that! Excited for more!’
Brooke S.
from Idaho
“It is not everyday that you get to watch transformation happen in someone from the inside and the outside, yet due to our over two decade friendship, I have had the privilege and opportunity to watch this transpire in Stacey’s life.
If you have had to time to participate in her exciting and unique course Becoming Safe, then you are beginning to get that glimpse. Not only is Stacey a gifted singer/songwriter she is passionate about bringing the message of those songs to help others in their personal healing. This is the first hand witness that I can give. She has done the work! She has walked the road of trauma and distress. She has been in the low valleys and is now sharing the tools and lessons she has learned to help others like her, reach the high places where there is hope, healing and triumph. Was it easy, no. Were there setbacks, most definitely. But even through the various challenge, Stacey knew she was called to be an overcomer! She has walked through the stages of victim, survivor, thriver and now person with a history. She choses each day to not be defined by her past, but to fully and wholeheartedly step into the role her Creator has made for her. As if this trying journey is not enough, she has created a space to share all that she learned, the good, the bad, the ugly and the victorious!n She is diligent in seeking wholeness through all the resources available and then layering them through the heating tools she shares in her course and topping them off with the beautiful balm that her songs become to your soul. As a clinical social worker of over 20 years and an EFT coach/mentor, I have met and seen people in very dark places. Often times, their biggest hurdle is themselves, as they struggle greatly to move beyond their limiting beliefs, to humbly walk the often lonely road of finding wholeness. It is possible though, as Stacey is doing and generously sharing with anyone willing to listen. I can honestly and fully endorse the Becoming Safe course as a wonderful aid of encouragement and resource to your healing journey!”
Dena Smiley MSW
EFT Coach and Mentor
“It's been a long time coming for me to realize that the reason humans have issues with each other, is because we have issues with ourselves. I have gone through my own experiences of loss and trauma and hit a low in my life like no other. I was grateful to have found the Becoming Safe community where I was able to connect with Stacey and others to work through and understand how to get a better handle on my life. I was in the midst of despondency, despair, overwhelm, self doubt and agonizing untamed emotions that I experienced from a toxic relationship. The process to finding a healthier me, was had through the unique variety of resources that Stacey has aggregated. For me, it was a secondary blessing to utilize the many tools available to dig into the nuts and bolts of the psychology around my issues. They were the practical piece of the equation. But primarily, I found a very special and unique blessing in the music. It was the sharing of Stacey's heart through her music that gets down to deep and visceral emotions/issues that are hard to reveal in the more conventional ways. The stories and the music helped me to understand that I wasn't some kind of terrible person who ruins lives, but rather, just part of the human race. We are all damaged in some way by ourselves and others and the effect of that damage can often be hard to understand or deal with. I wrestled with the heaviness of isolation and misplaced guilt. I realized that my experience was not unique, but in fact somewhat common. I felt safe learning this and it gave me the courage to face myself more, share honestly about my areas of weakness and strength and start the work to address my stuff. Through the music, the stories, the course, the tools and the personal interaction, I am finding myself coming out the other side of the darkest time in my life. And I like the person I'm finding. I am definitely a work in progress, and the key word is progress! The use of the present tense word "Becoming", encourages me to know that it's a process that I can engage in on a regular and ongoing basis. My journey toward healing is being expedited through the safe and caring environment of Becoming Safe.”
Donna R.
from TN
“Can I just say THANK YOU, for being a safe place, a safe person for me. I finally FEEL better! I am better! I truly felt like I had lost my mind and my peace. Becoming Safe was a concept I had never thought about and didn’t even really get at first. And now, it’s everything. I AM becoming safe, inside! My situation may change, but I see now that I have choice and I can be OK, safe inside, even when the storm is raging around me. It doesn’t have to overwhelm me and knock me down. I’m learning how to navigate the waves as they come, with the tools I’m learning and using daily. So thankful that the Ruach led me to Stacey and this resource that she has created to help other women heal.”
Shekinah O.
from GA
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Becoming Safe with
Stacey Anne Fitzgerald
* Mother * Wife * Child of the Most High *
* Nutritionist * Horse Trainer * Singer/Songwriter *
A survivor to the core, Stacey studied at American Health Science University after her near-death horse accident and subsequent reconstructive surgeries, bone infection, and downward spiral from pharmaceutical overload. Over 30 years later, she teaches from her own experiences of successes and setbacks, developing classes that help others regain a felt sense of Being Safe - spirit, soul, and body - with a unique focus to realign their own wellness with the Creator's Breath/Ruach/Spirit . Her heart is to simplify health and wellness, and to bring an understanding to the affects of complex trauma in life, so that others can be free FROM fear, unhealthy relationships, dis-ease, strongholds, addictions, and years of misinformation and less than best choices, and free TO live an abundant life - fully embracing all of themselves and showing up in this world able to offer their own unique gifts and wisdom to others.
Joel & Stacey
Fitzgerald
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